Listen up, Papas! We have a list of parenting do’s and don’ts that were compiled from the Hill’s Manual of Social and Business Forms by Thomas Edie Hill, that was published in 1886. It is really interesting to see how parenting today compares to how parents were expected to behave back in the day.
How do you stack up? Read on to find out!
How Parents Should Act
Teach your children to have a strong work ethic. That they should value the work that they do and be proud of being able to sustain themselves by the strength of their own effort.
Always speak to your children in a pleasant voice.
Encourage your child to dress well, to pay their debts, never go back on their word and return things where they rightfully belong.
Teach your children to avoid negative vices, such as alcohol and smoking. Teach them instead the virtues of being honest, faithful, punctual and to be mindful of their temperament.
Answer the question “why”. Your child is soaking everything in, and that well needs to be fed. Encourage them to ask questions, and don’t tire of answering them.
Help them learn how to become outstanding members of society, and teach them how to obtain the things necessary in life to become healthy, happy, successful and wise. Help them gain confidence in their day to day affairs.
How Parents Shouldn’t Act
Don’t lie to your child. Doing so will only teach them how to do the same in return, and will teach them that it is acceptable in day-to-day life.
Avoid speaking harshly to your child, and never use disrespectful names towards them. Also never use vulgar or profane words in their presence. Using cold words will only drive your child away from you, and you will be unable to teach them properly in return.
Don’t wake up your child before they get enough rest. Make sure they go to bed early enough each night so that they are able to get enough sleep. Give them the chance to sleep while they can before they become adults with much busier schedules.
Avoid punishing your child for actions that were made in good faith. Take note of what they were trying to accomplish before immediately getting angry with them. This will help teach your child that there is value in telling the truth, and that you are willing to listen and give them a chance.
Never withhold praise when your child rightfully deserves it. If you only ever point out the bad things, your child will never strive to do the good things.
Don’t lose your temper. This reflects more badly on you than any action that your child may have done to provoke it. Instead, be a good role model so that your child may learn by example. Help them model your good behavior instead of your bad behaviors. Otherwise it may come back at you some day.