There’s no question that being on a sports team can be really beneficial for a child. It can help teach the importance of teamwork, as well as instilling good social skills. It can also help to promote physical activity and also how to stay committed and work towards your goals.
So what do you do if your kid is losing interest and wants to quit? As a parent you know that sometimes it is best to encourage your child to keep at it. There is always a chance that they might regret quitting later. You also know that it is important to let a child explore their own interests and make their own decisions.
If you’re faced with this kind of decision, here are a few signs that it might really be best to allow your child to quit their sports team.
They’re Doing it For You
You should ask yourself what the real motivation is behind having your kid play a sport. Is it something you pressured your kid into, or did they ask to pursue the sport themselves? If your child is only staying in the sport because they feel obligated, or because their motivation is to make YOU happy, that isn’t really a good sign.
They are Being Bullied
It is a sad truth that it isn’t uncommon for some sport coaches to be verbally abusive towards their team, or to try intimidating them into getting the results they’re after. This can also lead to teammates picking up on the abuse and thinking it is ok to treat others the same way.
It Gives Them Anxiety
Sports should be a fun thing for kids – not something that they constantly worry about, or something that can even give them full blown panic attacks if they feel like they’re not doing a good enough job.
It especially shouldn’t affect them so much that their studies or social life suffers as a result. A child’s mind shouldn’t be so consumed with sports that the other aspects of their life takes a back seat.
They Don’t Enjoy It
The absolute major goal of having your child participate in sports is for them to have fun while doing it. Make sure that your child understands that they have your full support no matter what they decide. If they truly aren’t enjoying the sport – allow them to move on to another sport or activity that they may find more enjoyment in.
Injuries Keep Happening
It is expected that sports usually come with the price tag of a few injuries. If your kid is getting hurt too often, or excessively so, you might want to ask yourself whether it’s all really worth it. You also need to consider how chronic injuries can have the possibility of hurting your child long term.
At the end of the day, what matters most is simply communication and knowing your own kid. Make sure they’re comfortable coming to you to talk about any issues that might come up. Take their words to heart. They need to know their opinion matters.
They may very well choose to continue with the sport on their own, or you might be able to come up with a new activity altogether that the two of you might both enjoy. Win-win!